Single People Don't Have to Be Sad During the Holidays

SAN ANGELO, TX -- Many people believe the holidays are extra difficult for single people, especially in the middle of a pandemic. But according to Acamea Deadwiler it doesn't have to be that way.

Deadwiler is the author of Single That: Dispelling the Top 10 Myths of the Single Woman and according to her the holiday season is a great time for singles to focus on themselves rather than worry about their relationships with others or bemoan their lack of a partner to toast the New Year.

“Think of this as an opportunity to do what makes you happy and to make decisions without needing to consult with someone else,” says Deadwiler. “A little self-indulgence can be good for your mental and emotional well-being, even if that time is spent doing nothing at all.”

Deadwiler offers the following tips to make this holiday season merry and bright for single people.

Make A Plan

It is still possible to have fun even if holiday celebrations are a little smaller or less frequent than usual. So take some special time for yourself like taking a stroll on the beach, enjoying a favorite holiday movie while drinking hot cocoa, or hiking into nature on a crisp winter morning. 

“You can immerse yourself in thought or be captivated by the surrounding beauty."

Take Advantage of Virtual Connections

Put to use the advantage of living in the 21st century. Use Zoom, FaceTime, and other ways to make a video connection with friends and loved ones. 

“It’s not the same as being there, but you can still make memories, just in a different way.” 

Embrace the Alone Time

According to Deadwiler, some single men and women struggle more than others with being alone. Deadwiler says there’s nothing wrong with seeking companionship but insists that you can’t really know yourself unless you spend time with yourself, independent of the needs and influence of others.

 “Many of us don’t remember who we were before parents, friends, and society made us someone else. In spending time alone, we get to hear our thoughts without all of the outside noise. We learn our authentic likes and dislikes, what we need, and who we are.”

Deadwile admits being alone is not "all sunshine and freedom," but "no matter how comfortable you are alone, we all desire companionship sometimes and can get a bit dejected when it’s unavailable, especially at the holidays if everyone else we know is sharing meals and gift exchanges with a special someone."